Do Men Hate Valentines Day?

I think Valentines Day is for the girls. Men should buy women gifts. Lavish attention on us. Kneel at that pedestal and pour out their deep romantic feelings to us. A girl can dream, right?

I'm sure this is why many men hate Valentines Day. But exactly why do guys hate Valentines Day? The pressure?

I think this is only fair because guys are the ones that get to ask a woman to marry them. Girls have to wait to be asked. And while we wait, and wait, and wait-- and even after we wait -- all we ask is a little worship on a special February 14th day.

And really......by lavish, I mean one card with heartfelt note and home cooked meal (froz lasagne is fine) and bottle of wine. And undivided attention and adoration. Is it really that hard? Because you all know the reward!!!

I never stress about what to do for my man for Valentines Day -- the only thing men want for Valentines Day is the same thing they want for New Years Eve!!!

No planning needed.

Cheers! Heidi

Comments

You can have your Valentine's Day.

We get Steak and BJ day.

Even exchange.

Valentine's Day is such a waste of time...totally made up by the card companies. I intentionally ignore it..except for the obligatory sex part.

"totally made up by the card companies"

really? you think that is why it took on and stuck around??? Doony I think there is a BIG softie underneath there somewhere who loves a day to get all 'mushy' and 'squishy' ...

I'll agree that the card companies have a lot to do with keeping this holiday alive. Ever hear of Sweetest Day? Totally a Hallmark Holiday. However, it's nice to get chocolate and give sex. I'm easy.

I don't celebrate sweetest day. Way to Hallmark for me. For Valentine's Day I'd rather spend a nice evening with my guy and a nice tango in bed to wrap it up. My boyfriends birthday is right before Valnetine's Day, instead of gifts or anything, he just wants to go away for the weekend. Just the two of us. So, we are going up north, playing in the snow and maybe some ice fishing. We booked a hotel and are also going to an indoor waterpark. I can't wait to get away and just have time for fun! To me, that's romantic!

I, for some reason, hate everything that feels even remotely contrived. So Valentines day is not exactly celebrated in my house. I would rather have a heartfelt I love you any other day than a stupid card that my husband spent 10 seconds picking out.

Talk about 10 seconds picking out a card...Thats actually true. I once worked in a store where cards were sold and while on the way home V D night, every guy for 10 miles around would stop to get a card. There was loads of guys last minute picking out a card on the way home.

pathetic !!!

I hate when people diss Valentine's Day and say "You should show how much you love your SO every day, not just once a year" when in reality a whole lot of people just don't do that. They just want an excuse out of the holiday all together. Valentine's Day is overhyped but having a reminder to stop and take a moment to tell the person you love why they rock your world isn't the worst thing ever.

I absolutly love the idea of valentine's day.yeah we do romantic stuff all the time but this is a day to REALLY do it up..I go online to fredricks of hollywood and find something really sexy to wear that night..I usually wear a big ole comfortable T-shirt, so feeling sexy & having fun with my man..well nothing wrong with that and as expected he luv's it..and he appreciates that I go out of my way to make this a really special night..

Valentines day is a lame excuse for a holiday. Any woman that thinks she deserves anything on this putrid day needs to wake up and realize that you don't get to be rewarded for acting like a bitch all year long...
WTF is wrong with this society?

Fuck yes men hate valentines day.
There is absolutely no reason for us to like the horrible holiday.
I like the idea of having a steak and bj day to compensate for the pain and anguish caused by this rediculous laughable so called holiday.
Then, and only then, men MIGHT sort of like valentines day...

It's not just guys that hate valentines day!! i hate it too!!! and its because every year all the people with a date or a girl/boyfriend go off trotting around like a bunch of love sick idiots raving about how much they love v-day wel its stupid if you ask me!!! those of us without "dates" or if we're single feel like crap it should be call "lower single people's self esteem" day its more like depressing then wut u seeem to think "romantic"

i hate v-day also because of all the hipe of you r suppose to expect something and i dont want anything but who im with to leave me alone. i have been with him for three years and i have asked for a full body massage every year and almost every occasion so here i sit bored bored bored ho hum time to get another one. well i suppose it could be worse we could be married. i would have the first year but now if he even thinks about asking i will disappear from his little noone know what im going thru world. so many excuses from his kids to what ever. im tired of it all. please any advise for the stuck in wonder land. i want out of this cartoon of someone elses not funny anymore.

Valentines day is an annual tribute to prostitution. Hi honey...here's your chocoloate, now can can you perform? Screw off.

It's funny how some women claim they hate VD, but their hatred seems to be based on jealousy. "I never get anything good!!"

I like the steak and BJ day idea. Think it'll fly? Of course not. Women don't get anything out of it.

Men arn't the only ones that don't like Valentine's Day. Some women don't look forward to this mushy holiday. Yes, some women like to be lavished with gifts, while others don't like the fuss. Get a six pack and some movies and spend the day just to two together doing nothing at all. Chocolates and flowers don't last forever while the memory of just the two of us will.

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I don't believe you Americans / or other countrymen get a holiday for this pathetic reason. In Asia, we don't get a holiday, we are productive and we work. Love... that's what most of us do every day. It is definitely an overhyped imperialist capitalist day of February.

Valentine's Day is just another crappy Hallmark Holiday, like Sweetest Day in the Midwest.

That's all we need- another obligation for men to spend more money/time on their women. Birthdays, Anniversaries,Christmas, Easter, and quality time with the In-Laws (Large families suck!).

Sarcastically speaking, one hour with my annoying Mother-In-Law is worth a night of kinky sex,a case of import beer, and a full body massage with a happy ending :).

I hate Valentines Day!!! It's only purpose is to please spoiled, high-maintenance princessy women and make Hallmark richer.

Valentine's Day sucks. I have a GF, and told her previously that I refuse to recognize such a Hallmark day.

The most she'll get is a phone call asking her how her day was-no mention of this annoying holiday necessary. It's just another day on the calendar for us.

Well, some women (like me) pretend
Valentine's doesn't matter. But it's
just so we don't get let down. If the
guy doesn't see the point, then he just
does't see the point. We're not going
to push it on him, because that's no fun
at all. Wonder what would happen if we
ladies decided Thanksgiving, Christmas
and Easter weren't important enough to
do all that cooking and fussing over?
Does a box of chocolates and a heart-
felt card, maybe some flowers really
seem like that much work compared to
what we women do over the big holidays?
So, the best thing for me is just to
ignore V-Day. It doesn't hurt quite so
much that way.

Historically, Valentines Day has always been a day of dissapointment... some of my personal VDay stories include throwing an engagement ring back at a former fiance, and getting stood up by an addict boyfriend. Those were the olden days!

Last year, my now husband did it up right, got a bottle of wine, flowers and treated me to dual pedicures - just he and I at the salon! It was the BEST Valentines Day ever. Yesterday, he didn't plan a thing, and only got flowers for me last night after I made a noise that I was a little disappointed he hadn't planned a thing. What the heck? (don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful guy and takes very good care of me!) But I'm back to believing Valentines Day is truly for the birds.

Valentine's Day - a reason for the guy (girl) to ignore, forget, etc... the rest of the days to worship you, be grateful for you, show you (s)he "cares". Why make an effort any other time if (s)he can do it on "Valentine's Day". And if you SETTLE for Valentine's Day only, YOU'RE the fool. He/she should celebrate you everyday as should you celebrate him/her. Life is short - you (he)(she) may not be around for Valentine's Day.

hey justsayjulie - obviously you weren't the only valentine on his list. One valentine obligation (in your case) is enough for your man. He probably did something for this OTHER valentine. HEY - get real - he's just not that in to you ANYMORE or you wouldn't have written that blog. REALITY CHECK! You didn't even get a card? No card? HELLO!!!!! Get prepared. Next year...buy yourself something and a card and have him sign it - IF he's still around that is. Move on!

Valentines day can go to hell. Its a load of sh*t just like "that special someone" and "true love". Neither exist. Ive had my heart crapped on enough to know now that girls want two things from guys. 1-Control, 2-Money/Material. Women are just as heartless as men.

I think Valentines Day should be every day! Love those chicks.

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Hi,
Valentines' day is the most memorable day for lover.The loads of gifts are exchange on that day.The men should not hate it,what ever it may be if they received a gift or not the one thing is you love your loved one,and she also love u,thats all.The gift is most the respectable thing.
I saw in one of the website for valentines day gifts which is having a great collections.

So we don't worship you on, say:

Anniversary's (wedding and/or dating)

Christmas (not really for worshiping you, but you tell that to my finance)

Your Birthday

When your mad at us (hey that's a good 5-20 percent of the time for me)

On our own birthday's (I'm usually footing the bill for my own birthday dinner and her's)

Date Nights (...and there are only a few she plans, then mocks me when I complain about having to be creative once every week or two weeks when she does it only once or twice a year)

Give me a break. Valentines day is a sham, real men love their partners as equally as they love them 365 days a year, and it works both ways sister. You don't make an effort, we don't make an effort.

All I would want is a card or flowers but do I even get that. No. You would think I would be used to it by now but it still hurts after being knowing and being with him for over 12 overs.

Is Flowers really that hard to get. I just wanted to feel loved and appreciated for one day.